I’ve been going by this beautiful tree on the way to work. I keep thinking “I need to snag a picture of that tree before the leaves fall off” … but I’ll probably forget and I won’t take a picture.* I’m reminded of the song “Cat’s in the Cradle”** where the dad misses his son growing up and his son wanting to be just like him -- and when he does, he’s too busy for his dad. And then his dad figures out - “my boy is just like me” … it’s sad.
“Schedule your priorities, don’t prioritize your schedule” a preacher once told me. “We need to make time for what’s important in life” … he said.
There is this book by this husband and wife - the Zanders. Husband Ben used to tell his students to give themselves an “A” the first day of class - because he felt they were concerned and anxious with taking risks because it would potentially affect their grades. They were further told to write themselves a letter and post-date it to the end of the semester explaining to themselves what they did to deserve this grade. When the pressure was off to get a grade - the students took risks and became more successful.
We are so caught up sometimes with doing what we feel is expected that we don’t stop and take pictures of beautiful things. We don’t hang with our kids and play ball. We live our lives by other’s expectations.
Stop doing this. Live your life authentically. Speak up, step up and be selfish.
|**And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
"When you coming home, dad?" "I don't know when"
But we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then