For Our Own Good
“I’m telling you this for your own good,” can be difficult words to hear. They should also be difficult words to say. Have those words ever been directed at you? After all, who wants to be criticized no matter how good the intention? It’s unlikely that whatever is revealed is a surprise, and even more unlikely it will be met with gratitude.
I have been a Dad for so long that I have been used to being the “truth bearer”. Recently, I was on the business end of that conversation. I was negative for a full 24 hours until I decided to pull up my “big boy pants”. I know full well that it was truly nothing personal! It stung no less! I know how much I care for my kids when I tell them something they need to hear. I know that my “truth bearer” cares for me. Honesty and compassion are not in short supply.
The messenger must be concerned with some aspect of your welfare to come forward in such a deliberate way. But how that message is delivered-and how it is received-can either alienate or affirm. We long for peace on earth, but sometimes fail to realize that it must begin in our own hearts, where each of us is vulnerable. If we find ourselves bearers of a truth that must be said, may we do so with a kindness that tempers truth. If we are being told something “for our own good”, may we translate the message through God’s love.
“Negativity is the mortal enemy of teamwork.” – Liz Jazwiec
- Dr. Michael Hurt, CMO