Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill. - Buddha
Remember the old proverb “Two wrongs don’t make a right”? I use this saying a lot with my kids when they try to deflect blame for their own actions onto one of their siblings. The same thing all of us parents hear over and over, “he hit me first” or “she started it”. I constantly try to explain that behaving badly because someone else did is never a good idea. I try to reiterate that they are responsible for their own actions regardless of what someone else did. There are days that I don’t feel like this is making any impact, but I hope if they hear it a million times it may stick with them later in life.
As I skim through Facebook and read the comments to random posts, I wonder how many of us need reminding of these life lessons. I am always amazed at how nasty people can be to one another. It appears to be one of the downfalls of our new electronic world; there is a clear disconnect from the words we type to the impact on those reading them. I firmly believe that many of these people would never speak to one another face to face the way they communicate via social media. As you look to New Years and making a resolution for yourself for improvement, I would strongly encourage you to focus on improved communication as that could have the most positive impact on our society as a whole. I, in no way, shape or form have the answers, but I firmly believe that the times you want to communicate the least are the exact times when you need to communicate the most. This has served me well in my married life as well as my professional life. So, my challenge for you this week is to actually have a conversation with someone and focus on the conversation. Put down your phone, look away from your computer and truly communicate with each other. You may be surprised at how great you feel afterwards!
You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time. - Scott Peck
-Amy McDaniel, Belmond CEO