"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." - George Bernard Shaw
We had a mandatory family meeting this week to discuss failed expectations. It was pretty interesting as we have never had one up to this point, and I am not sure that the kids knew exactly what to expect. In hindsight I went completely into work mode. After discussing my concerns and my disappointment in the kids behavior, I sent them upstairs to come up with an action plan and then to return and present the action plan for Rick and I to approve. Interestingly enough my kids returned with a six point plan of action within about 15 minutes. We will see how long it lasts, but at least they clearly know what the expectations are moving forward.
How many times in our life are we disappointed because we failed to clearly communicate our expectations? Often times we will dance around expectations to avoid conflict but in the end we are disappointed. Imagine if we just communicated clearly what we expect and gave clear direction. I would encourage you this week to identify one of those conversations that you really need to have and have it. I can tell you that clear expectations and action plans are a wonderful thing at least in my house this week.
“If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you will never change the outcome.” – Michael Jordan