Do one thing every day that scares you. - Eleanor Roosevelt
I had a discussion with Maleigha the other night regarding homework that went as follows:
Me: Maleigha, go get your homework so I can review it.
Maleigha: Mom, you should just trust that I have it done.
Me: Well, we tried that last year and you didn't always complete it, so go get your homework.
Maleigha: But Mom you should just trust that I did it.
Me: Well, trust is earned, and once I see that it is complete, you will earn some of that trust. Now go get your homework.
In the end she went and got her homework. It was indeed completed, but it was completely wrong so we ended up re-doing it. I imagine her hesitation stemmed from a place of fear that she was either going to be in trouble for getting it wrong or that she would have to spend the time to re-do her homework. However, she ended up in more trouble by arguing with me than if she would have just said, "It is done, but I didn't understand it so it is probably all wrong." We have been working with all the kids on just being honest and owning when they make a mistake as it makes the situation so much easier to address when you are dealing with the truth.
This is true in our work life as well. We are all human and are bound to make mistakes or say things we didn't mean. The key is to own up to those mistakes and take responsibility. Sometimes we avoid a situation because we are sure it is going to be awful, and we have created an entire story in our head of how it will go. This is the very definition of FEAR orFalse Events Appearing Real. We are incredible story tellers and have the ability to create many different scenarios and outcomes based on our wild imaginations. My challenge for you this week is to use your imagination to envision the situation working out in your favor. Be fearless and own your mistakes as it usually goes better than you think.
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. - Nelson Mandela
-Amy McDaniel, Belmond CEO